Sugar Daddy Sites Compared
A plain overview of the best-known sugar dating sites, how each one charges, and the scams to avoid. We run SexySelfies, so we've included it and said clearly what it is and isn't.
What we looked at
The questions worth asking about any sugar dating site
Sugar dating sites are dating platforms built around relationships between successful, generous people and partners who appreciate that lifestyle. They vary a lot in how they charge, how they check profiles and who they're aimed at. Before signing up anywhere, these are the things to check.
- Verification. Does the site check IDs or photos, and is it required or optional?
- How you pay. Monthly subscription, credits or per item? Do prices change by gender or membership tier?
- Moderation. Can you report and block people, and does anyone act on reports?
- Privacy. What does your profile show, and to whom?
We haven't given star ratings or scores, because we didn't run a formal test of each site. Prices and features change often, so check each site's current terms before paying.
The sites people ask about most
Listed for comparison, not ranked
SexySelfies
SexySelfies isn't a sugar dating site, and it doesn't arrange relationships or meetings of any kind. It's a pay-per-post site where 21+ ID-verified creators share photos and videos. Some people who search for sugar sites really want an online connection with someone they find attractive, without the arrangements. For them, this is a simpler option.
Good fit: you want to browse free, message creators and buy posts you like. Not a fit: you're looking for a dating site or an arrangement. Creators don't sell content through DMs, and there are no meetups.
Visit SexySelfiesSeeking (Seeking.com)
One of the most widely known names in sugar dating, with a large membership. Basic profiles are free, and full messaging and features need a paid membership.
Secret Benefits
A sugar dating site that uses credits instead of a monthly subscription. You buy credit packs and spend them to message people.
SugarDaddy.com
One of the older sites in the category, aimed specifically at sugar dating.
Ashley Madison
Marketed for discreet relationships, including people who are married. It isn't built specifically for sugar dating.
Staying safe on any of these sites
Most problems are scams, and they follow a pattern
Common scams
The most common one runs in reverse: someone offers to send you money, then asks for a small "verification fee" or your bank login first. Another asks you to buy gift cards. A third moves you to a different app straight away, where the site can't see what's said. Anyone who does any of these is very likely a scammer.
Habits that help
- Keep conversations on the site until you're sure who you're talking to.
- Never share bank logins, passwords or codes sent to your phone.
- Never send money to someone you've only met online.
- Reverse image search profile photos that look too polished.
- Use a separate email and a username that isn't your real name.
Where SexySelfies is different
Because SexySelfies is a content site, the money side is simple. Members pay per post at the creator's price, through the site. Nobody asks you for transfers, gift cards or allowances, and creators can't charge for anything in messages.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is SexySelfies a sugar daddy site?
No. It's a pay-per-post site where verified creators sell photos and videos. It doesn't arrange relationships or meetings. It's on this page because people comparing sugar sites sometimes want something simpler and online only.
How do sugar dating sites charge?
It varies. Some use monthly memberships, some use credits, and some charge differently depending on your profile type. Read the pricing page before entering a card.
How do I avoid fake profiles?
Prefer sites that verify identity, reverse search photos that look like stock images, and walk away from anyone who asks for money, gift cards or account details.
Are there free sugar dating sites?
Many let you make a basic profile for free, but messaging usually costs money. On SexySelfies, browsing and messaging are free and you pay only for posts you choose.
Can I message creators on SexySelfies?
Yes, messaging is free. Creators can't sell photos or videos through messages, so all purchases are posts on their profiles.
Is SexySelfies 18+ or 21+?
21+. Members confirm their age at sign-up, and every creator passes an ID check before posting.
Want something simpler than an arrangement?
Browse verified creators for free and pay only for the posts you want. No subscription, no meetups.